Mary C. M. Phillips

Although the quote “If only we’d stop trying to be happy, we’d all have a pretty good time” has been attributed to Edith Wharton, the words are not entirely accurate.   In her short story, The Last Asset, written in 1904, one of the characters states, “Possibilities of what? Of being multifariously miserable? There are lots of ways of being miserable, but there’s only one way of being comfortable, and that is to stop running round after happiness. If you make up your mind not to be happy there’s no reason why you shouldn’t have a fairly good time.”

So ironic, but so true.  If I take my mind off of myself and get myself out of the way (my expectations, my ego, my ambitions), I have a better shot at being happy….or rather content.  There’s a difference.  I’ve found that happiness is very short lived and relies on the situation — the stuff that’s out of our control.

Contentment is the goal, not happiness.

And from my own experience, contentment is found in living in the moment, seeing what’s before me — right in front of me — and reacting with compassion.  Living in the here and now, presently.  There I can sense an inner peace that leads to contentment.  I slow down and smell the roses or the coffee or whatever’s in the air that particular moment.

Edith Wharton’s words, make up your mind not to be happy, for some strange reason make me smile.  More irony!  So, there must be a grain of truth in there somewhere.

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